Conflict in Your Relationship?
How to Turn Anger into Closeness 

Sick and tired of arguing?  Is there a loneliness that you just can’t shake?

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Pull Me Close is an online video course for couples who want better tools to handle conflict. It’s for couples who are distressed by arguing, tense interactions, and emotional distance.

This online video course will inspire you with hope because you will see, step-by-step, how the right communication tools for couples can drastically reduce miserable arguments.  

But Pull Me Close is so much more…

I designed this course to get into the nitty gritty of exactly how couples can change their longstanding habits of negative communication. This course is jam-packed with content. There are over 6 hours of video and audio content. In addition, there are handy guides and tips sprinkled throughout.

“But can this course really help me?”


Changing your style of conflict discussions will require effort on your part. But effort is hard when you are already discouraged. It’s even more difficult when you don’t know if the next thing to try is based on anything.

Pull Me Close takes the guess work out of the equation by giving you a laser focus on specific patterns of your communication.  It gives you and your partner leverage for change. How can that be?  It’s because Pull Me Close tools and techniques grew out of the scientific research on the conversation patterns of happy couples (what you need) and fighting couples (what to avoid).

Do you think just ‘trying harder’ will turn things around?  Think again.  Your efforts will only give you satisfaction if you focus on the right things.  The Pull Me Close course will show you exactly what those right things are and how to implement them.

Here’s what people are saying about Pull Me Close.

The full text of these endorsements is at the bottom of the page.

“… a practical, engaging and effective owner’s manual for the delicate but essential dance that is couples communication.”
Robert A. Russo, MD, FACP
General Internal Medicine Physician
“… this has been a game changer for difficult conversations.”
Dani Francis
“…each section is broken down into short video sections which only require a few minutes of time.”
Jacque Brooks, CFNP
“I noticed a difference immediately. When we had big things to discuss, neither of us left the conversation frustrated. It helped us feel like we were working together rather than against one another.”
Ryan Francis
“Dr. Hamlin has a teaching style that tends to leave an impression, so I was ready to remember and use the various tools. And, he motivated me to want to use them.”
Justin Ledden
“Drawing on scientific evidence, creativity, and decades of experience, Dr. Hamlin provides a well-curated, step-by-step roadmap—with practical tools, mindfulness meditations, worksheets…”
Roma Khetarpal
Mindfulness educator, Founder of Tools of Growth
“With specific steps he teaches how to approach thoughts, feelings, and behaviors differently to get the results you really want.”
Barbara Morris Jensen, PsyD, CAMF
Psychologist
“Pull Me Close is a comprehensive couples communication program on its own, and would also be a great add-on for those who are already participating in couples therapy. The value cannot be beat.”
Andrea Bey, LMFT
“… informs and inspires couples in simple and clear ways—so each partner will know what to do and be motivated to do it.
Jim and Jennifer Taylor
“I learned so much more about how many layers there are to defensiveness and this course explains ways and tools to navigate around them.”
Katie McAllister
Communications Director of Tive Technology

6 Specific Ways Pull Me Close Can Help You:

BENEFIT: Stop Unnecessary Arguments.

Numerous, unnecessary arguments create so much stress. Hurtful remarks, spoken in anger, can be toxic for months and even years.  Most couples recognize this and so they AVOID conflict.  Their thinking is this:  why speak up and ruin the moment?

The problem with this thinking is that frustrations accumulate over time.  Then it’s just one little, silly thing that breaks the dam.  A flood of frustration pours out and it’s not pretty.

Why not learn the skills, steps, and tools to have short, productive conflict discussions?  That’s what this course is about.  Because the conversations are short, they don’t overwhelm you.  And because you are not accumulating frustrations over time, you actually talk about one thing and feel the progress.

BENEFIT: Not just WHAT but HOW

So many videos, books, seminars tell you what you need to change. They even give examples. But they don’t get down into the weeds and explain how to make those specific changes in a practical sequence. In Pull Me Close, important tools and techniques are explained in step-by-step detail. I don’t say, “Now, fix the leaky faucet.” Instead, I say, “Here’s the wrench you are going to use and let’s start by how to hold it.”

BENEFIT: Cuts through the confusion.

There are so many opinions, so many gurus out there talking about relationships. So much confusion. So how do you know which self-help book to read? How do you decide who to follow? Well, one of the best ways to narrow it down is to look at the marriage and couples experts who have solid research behind their approach. That narrows it down to roughly two: John Gottman and Susan Johnson. But these two approaches to healing relationships are very different.

So how do you choose?  More confusion. If you close your eyes and pick one, you going to miss out on the strengths of the other approach.

The Pull Me Close course integrates both perspectives into something new. It satisfies the need for solid, practical tools (e.g., John Gottman, Julie Gottman) AND our longing for attachment, for finding connection (e.g., Susan M. Johnson).  Both are necessary.  

Helps Prevent Overwhelm by teaching you how to pace yourselves.

This course is packed with content. As I was designing this course, I thought deeply about how to protect you from being overwhelmed by too many good tools. So, I consulted with an educational specialist who has a doctorate from the University of Southern California. Her input proved crucial to the layout of the course. This course, then, is designed to prevent cognitive overload. All the content is put into small chunks so that you can eat the elephant one bite at a time. It is also self-paced so that you spend more time on some lessons and less time on others. It’s your choice. You decide how slowly or how quickly you go through the course videos and other resources.

A big sigh of relief: “We have hope because we have a plan!”

The Pull Me Close course is designed to build your confidence and hope. Couples often feel like “We’ve tried everything!” When you are going though a dark time in your relationship, things begin to look hopeless. The energy to look for solutions drains away from you like a leaky bucket. But when someone shows you a clear path, suddenly you see a way forward. The Pull Me Close course is that clear path forward for your relationship.

Help to Prevent Despair by Following a Proven Trail Map.

Why stumble through the dark forest when you can follow a well-worn trail in the light of day? You know that part of you that wants to try something new? Think of having a stack of poker chips. But they are not poker chips. They are “effort” chips. Once you use them all up, you have no more to spend. You’re done trying. And then you start thinking about ending the relationship. I designed this course out of respect for your predicament:

  •  You don’t have time to spend your precious effort chips on random attempts with trial and error.
  • You only have enough motivation chips to spend on tools that have been proven by top researchers to work for thousands of couples. The stakes are so high. You dare not run out of effort chips before you start having some breakthroughs. 
  • The focus of Pull Me Close is on the things that matter for making real change. It helps you spend your effort chips wisely. Or, to change the metaphor, the research foundation gives you the right crowbar at the right time (your most discouraging time) so that you don’t give up because you are floundering with your efforts.
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Who Is This Course For? Pull Me Close Is For…

  • Couples who have an underlying love and respect for each other, even if that love and respect is buried beneath a crust of tension and frustration
  • Couples who are tired of being lonely and want to feel more connected
  • Couples whose physical intimacy has dropped off due to unpleasant arguments and the resulting emotional distance
  • Couples who already know that their conflict discussions need improvement
  • Couples who are willing to take individual responsibility for making small changes over time
  • Individuals who just want to work on better communication for themselves, even if their partner is not yet willing to work on it
  • Couples who want a new adventure together

Who Is This Course NOT For? Pull Me Close Is NOT For…

  • People in a violent relationship. If there is a pattern of violence or coercive control in your relationship, then you don’t need more tools. You need an exit strategy.
  • Individuals who just want this course to “fix” their partner without taking a hard look themselves.
  • Individuals who want ammunition to criticize their partner about communication.

What You Get

1

52 short, actionable videos totaling 5 hours and 46 minutes of rich content

Watch the videos alone or with your partner
Review the videos as many times as you need
Make your way through the course whenever you have a few minutes.

2

55 Lessons in 4 Modules

So easy to learn new things in little bite-size pieces
Easy navigation:  you always know where you are in each module

3

54 minute Audio course: Calm Connection Mini-Course

Ready-to-use lessons that you can practice without your partner
Easy-to-digest insights into the human brain that help you practice well
Follow-along, guided meditations that are simple to use

4

19 content-rich PDFs to help you internalize new habits of thinking, speaking, and listening

The recipe book:  list of steps that you and your partner can use to practice
Key tips that make all the difference when you are gaining new skills

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About Dr. Hamlin

I am a couples therapist, licensed psychologist in California, and individual therapist.  I am also a content creator and author of the Pull Me Close course for improving couples communication.  Steps and Tools is the name of my company because, with all the deeper therapeutic work that I do, I always distill things into actionable steps and practical tools.  I have a special passion for helping couples clear away the debris from clumsy arguments and past hurts so that they can enjoy closeness.

As you get into this course, you will see that the included PDFs are quite special in the way they give you the steps to follow.  But their value goes way beyond giving you the recipe.  These little gems help you and your partner to internalize new sequences of thoughts while you speak and listen to each other.  This kind of practice allows everything to become much easier because these new habits become part of who you are and how you think.

How To Get Started

The cost of the Pull Me Close course $497. But it is currently being offered at a pre-launch special price.   Use this coupon code to get $200 off!   PMC1AMAZING

For a limited time, the price for the entire course is $297, giving you a program to work on your communication for 3 to 6 months. (To give a little context, my fee for one session of therapy for a couple is $225). So, this pre-launch special price is barely more than one session of couples therapy.


I invite you to take your next step toward satisfaction in your relationship. Learning how to feel close and connected before, during, and after a conflict discussion is a major step. This course breaks that major step into smaller steps that add up to a journey of adventure, love, and personal growth.


The course program provides an adventure—a journey that you both can embark on together—immediately. It gives you a shared experience, an adventure for the two of you: “Let’s reinvent our relationship!” And this adventure can begin today.

Sign-up today and start your new journey! Just fill out the quick order form below for immediate access to Pull Me Close with the tools for closeness.

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100% Satisfaction Guarantee for 30-Days

There’s absolutely no risk to purchasing the Pull Me Close course. You’ve got a full 30 days to change your mind. You can get started with everything in the course… and if for any reason you’re not thrilled, just let us know you’ve changed your mind and we’ll refund every penny.

I have benefitted so much from this course! Although my husband and I don’t typically get into heated arguments, I knew there were areas we could improve our communication but have been lost on just how to do that. The way Dr. Hamlin’s videos helped me point out my own habits of negative communication and what to do about them is exactly what I’ve been looking for. I was equipped with a practical plan on how to have difficult conversations with much less stress. I’m a logical thinker and a planner, so the provided worksheets helped me by giving me a template to follow as I worked to put the steps into practice. What I’m most grateful for is the course helped me point out that it’s not primarily anger that I experience during conflict, it’s fear. I had never pieced that together before. Using the calming techniques, I’ve been able to stay present, keep my defenses low, and not let my mind spiral—this has been a game changer for difficult conversations. I think the tools given in this course are able to help any couple, from the couple who is plagued by intense arguments to the couple that feels their communication is already pretty good. It’s truly a worthwhile investment.
Dani Francis
Pull Me Close provides simple, thorough, practical tools that make a big difference to bridge the gap and create the closeness we all desire in our relationships. Dr. Hamlin’s guidance is kind, relatable, and applicable. With specific steps he teaches how to approach thoughts, feelings and behaviors differently to get the results you really want. So many courses tell you what’s going wrong but not how to set things right. He pulls the curtains open on how we can shift from conflict to closeness. This course provides a roadmap to confidence, connection, and thriving. Understanding how to soothe ourselves, and our partners, is a key part to remaining connected and thriving in our relationships. And as Dr. Hamlin states, repetition of these tools is essential to creating new habits and patterns in relationships. Happy, healthy, connected relationships are a gift to cherish, and the relationship with ourselves and others is the greatest investment we can make. These steps and tools will serve as an ongoing resource you’ll be grateful you purchased.
Barbara Morris Jensen, PsyD, CAMF
Dr. Hamlin’s “Pull Me Close Course” provides a vision for partners to create a deeper and more satisfying relationship through intentional and healthy communication. The videos, exercises, stories and expertise give partners tools and resources to utilize when managing strong emotions and differing opinions. With practice, partners are encouraged to communicate with a mindset to learn and grow in respect for one another. I appreciated Dr. Hamlin’s encouragement that the best of outcomes for connection within the partnership are realized when each partner feels seen, heard and understood. I highly recommend!
Tess Cox
I am so excited to recommend Pull Me Close to my clients, friends, family, and anyone who is struggling with communication. This gem of a course provides clear, step-by-step instructions on how to improve communication with your partner (and anyone important in your life) over a three-month period.
In this program Dr. Hamlin gradually increases the difficulty of conversation topics as the modules progress. In the first video of module 2 he explains how to practice engaging in a conflict discussion using easy topics, and provides lots of relatable examples throughout the video. In addition, he provides a companion handout with a suggestion list of easy topics to practice the conflict conversation with your partner. I really like that the course starts out with easy topics, to help couples learn the conflict conversation framework while their body is calm and regulated. I also love that Dr. Hamlin provides learning tools to promote comprehension and retention of this material for any type of learner.
It can be a challenge to find simple and effective communication tools that are packaged in a clear and ready-to-implement program. Dr. Hamlin accomplishes this beautifully with this course, using a step-by-step approach that is easy to comprehend and gradually increases in difficulty as the modules progress.
Pull Me Close is a comprehensive couples communication program on its own, and would also be a great add-on for those who are already participating in couples therapy. The value cannot be beat. For the price of a few couples sessions, you receive a step-by-step program that includes easily digestible videos, exercises, illustrative handouts, and encouraging words to improve your communication with your partner, ultimately leading to a stronger and more fulfilling relationship.
Andrea Bey, LMFT
“I have been a client of Dr. Hamlin’s. When I heard about “Pull me Close” I wasn’t sure how much more I could learn about my relationship with my husband, as Dr. Hamlin had worked so much with us in the past and we are happily married. I couldn’t be more grateful that I took the time to do this course. I learned so much more about how my husband and I communicate and why we have certain triggers that will lead to an argument. When we have disagreements I commonly focus on how I am right and how I can get my point across. Through this course I learned how non productive this is and as Dr. Hamlin describes in doing this I am in ‘prosecuting attorney mode’. I learned that I can be a ‘pouncer’ and I need to pause and listen instead of pouncing. Timing is very important in a respectful conflict and if my husband needs to take a break because he is flooding it is important that I give it to him. Mostly, I learned so much more about how many layers there are to defensiveness and this course explains ways and tools to navigate around them. I am looking forward to putting what I have learned into practice and to see how it pulls my husband even closer. I hope Dr. Hamlin continues these courses.”
Katie McAllister
Recently I had the privilege and opportunity to review the course “Pull Me Close” by Dr. Greg Hamlin. It has great benefits not only for couples that are not communicating well, but also for those couples that are open to learning new skills to further improve intimacy. I think this course would have tremendous benefit for couples just starting out to learn how to deal with difficulties early on, potentially avoiding years of hurt and resentment. I love that this course focuses on each individual taking responsibility for their communication skills and not worrying about what their partner is doing. I was impressed by the format, it is organized and well paced. Each section builds on the previous and requires practice, first with easy tasks that gradually become more challenging as you move through the course. Also, each section is broken down into short video sections which only require a few minutes of time. Being a nurse practitioner, I look forward to using these new life and communications skills in my own work and social relationships. I know my patients will benefit from the listening and calming principles I have learned. Dr. Hamlin is a very practical therapist who is passionate about his work and helping people improve their lives.
Jacque Brooks, CFNP
There’s a lot here — many disparate nuggets and also an intelligent integrated method that combines them. We haven’t mastered all the techniques yet, but I hope and believe I already have better communication habits. Dr. Hamlin has a teaching style that tends to leave an impression, so I was ready to remember and use the various tools. And, he motivated me to want to use them. This in turn ensured that I started with a strong base upon which to use what I learned in the course in everyday communication. Put another way, you should be well-equipped for significantly better communication after watching the videos, and then to make another leap as you work through and learn the techniques in more detail through practice. Pull Me Close provides distinct tools to improve communication from the perspective of being both on the “giving” and “receiving” end of anger-fueled or otherwise negative communications, which I found very useful.
Justin Ledden
This course helps couples identify and meet their different needs for happy and effective communication. The videos are well put together and easy to follow, and the content is really useful. I was glad to be given a roadmap for communicating with my spouse, especially through the more difficult topics. I noticed a difference immediately. When we had big things to discuss, neither of us left the conversation frustrated. It helped us feel like we were working together rather than against one another. I could tell my wife felt a lot more understood and more at peace, which made me appreciate that we took the time to go through this course together. The steps have been easy to remember and implement into our conversations.
Ryan Francis
The biggest cause of suffering and dissatisfaction in this ride as a human being comes from disconnections and miscommunication in relationships. These are skills we are never taught, and if we don’t have good role models in our parents and the adults in our lives, we are pretty much set up for failure in adulthood. This is precisely what makes Pull Me Close a necessity for every couple. Drawing on scientific evidence, creativity, and decades of experience, Dr. Hamlin provides a well-curated, step-by-step roadmap—with practical tools, mindfulness meditations, worksheets, and even an appreciation words list—for all personality types.
Whether you are aiming to bridge distances in your partnership or simply looking to pull your partner closer, this online course for couples will help you enhance effective communication and deepen connections with mindfulness, respect and compassion.
Roma Khetarpal
Dr. Gregory Hamlin’s Pull Me Close video course is an excellent resource for married couples seeking to learn how to turn their conflicts into opportunities for growth in affection and intimacy rather than occasions for anger and division. Dr. Hamlin provides couples looking for help and hope with practical, research-based guidelines for speaking and listening in ways that minimize tension and stress and maximize mutual understanding and appreciation. In each brief video, Dr. Hamlin explains his step-by-step methods in a wise, sincere, and encouraging manner. He informs and inspires couples in simple and clear ways—so each partner will know what to do and be motivated to do it. This course offers a positive way forward for those who feel their marriage is falling apart as well as those who just want to make a good relationship better. Whether a couple is in therapy or not, Pull Me Close will give them a valuable supplement or alternative—one that is affordable and easy to review. We’re grateful we can take advantage of this wonderful tool, and we would urge other couples to do so as well.
Jim and Jennifer Taylor

Invest in Yourself and Your Relationship

I’ve had a very busy private practice during the pandemic lockdown.  One of the ways I coped with the stress of big changes was to throw myself into a creative project.  I created the Pull Me Close course over a 12 month period.  I hope you will seriously consider investing in your relationship by purchasing this course and using it over the next 3-6 months.

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